self-disclosure online
Self-disclosure is vital in establishing a rapport towards a relationship or making a connection with other people.People usually reveal information about themselves for the purpose of making others feel comfortable or to encourage others to trust them or to open up.There are some, tends to disclose their personal achievements , to influence your opinion about them or to boost their ego. There are number of possible reasons why people volunteer personal information even to very stranger they meet.Whenever I hear a stranger volunteering an information about her/himself,I give a possible attention to what s/he is telling as carefully as I could.Maybe it is significant . ..or maybe not,maybe s/he just bullshitting, I’d thought…But usually, I’d listen carefully. It would be very interesting to meet a stranger who could tell me a very sensitive matter like she’s a recovering Psychotic or something,hehe
Me,personally disclose when I really like the person a lot,in return I get to learn about this person as well. Online,if I have to know more or like to know more about a particular person I’d write her an email and disclose a bit of myself,to get a bit connection with this person and it usually works well that way.But you see,there is a huge difference between being open in real life and being open virtually (online) especially in blogs.I know, it is none of my business but I don’t really see the need to brag personal infos into an online journal or does it?
hello there !!! Thank you very much for dropping by on my blog. And regarding to your post I tend to be honest both in reality and virtually. Just like Bryanboy his being open makes his blog click as well.
Comment by charles — December 5, 2005 @ 9:58 am
I have to confess, been lurking here for awhile
I am a paranoid woman and I maintain distance and privacy from people even with the closest of my friends. The “Too Close for Comfort” phrase bugs me. That means I don’t disclose things to people, online or real life but I can be friendly, although I prefer being a hermit.
I do sometimes shiver at the stuff people post in their blogs. Too personal information is just over the top. Masturbating one’s ego in his or her blog is fine with me. I can get really entertained by that easily! And although I don’t talk about people in my blog, I do get amused with all the written bickering, fights and parinig that I have read in the blogging community before, now and in the future! lol
PS re your question on my shoutbox. You are right, 6 December is the birthday of Sinterklaas but Sinterklaas in Holland is officially celebrated on the EVE of his birthday. The story is that for his birthday, Sinterklaas must return to Spain to rest on this special day [via a steamboat together with his white horse and the black Petes]. So that means on 6 December he is gone, he is not anymore in Holland. That’s why the kids celebrate his birthday while he is here and that’s 5 December, the eve of his birthday.
Comment by Dutched Pinay — December 5, 2005 @ 9:46 pm
test, i left a message last night and it didn’t pull through
Comment by Dutched Pinay — December 6, 2005 @ 10:09 am
Well, Cheh, I dont get affected about how personal can one get on his or her blog, because you are right, its none of our business.
my blog content doesnt have the highest of opinions, but at least, i was never geared up towards that since the beginning.
I am guilty as well of blog bragging but i do not know to what extent can one call it such (or how personal is a personal info). If i have my share of proud moments, i blog it for my friends and family. Yes I call it bragging na rin but i never discounted any embarrassing or struggling situation from my blog, I can be equally s proud of my booboos and kalokohan. Life is too short to just post my resume´s online
You know my intellectual capacity is barely mediocre
Entries like these, ako talaga ang unang natatamaan. But of course, i cant point fingers at others (as my opinion) I have my own self to look at (first) bago iba
Pero in the end, di rin naman pala masakit kung tanggapin ko ang katotohanan. So count me as GUILTY … LOL!!!
and about a recovering psychotic… GUILTY parin LOOOOL!!! Makusnitan na gyud tika sa bugan
Comment by jing — December 6, 2005 @ 6:04 pm
hmmm… i think it all depends on the blogger’s personality, whatever degree of openness you are comfortable with. A blog is meant to be an extension of yourself and your thoughts. If I don’t know the person all too well, I’d take the comments at face value.
I’m okay with revealing minimal stuff online since my friends (who are the ones who usually read my blog) at least get to know what I’ve been up to. I just don’t go into details since I’m still a very private person. I just tell my friends the nitty gritty whenever we get a chance to meet face-to-face or through private emails.
There are repercussions for the freedom of expression though. An office mate of mine was too open with her opinions about work and her bosses (meaning she made very bad remarks about them) on her blog so she eventually lost her job. She used all their real names including her own so she put a lot of people in a bad light. She was very virulent in her remarks so I don’t blame management for getting rid of her.
Comment by cherry — December 7, 2005 @ 4:42 am
i have been prevented daw from commenting on this blog. Ayaw pumasok ng comments.
Comment by jing — December 7, 2005 @ 12:06 pm
charles: thanks to you,too for returning that visit
sure, honesty still the best policy but one should maintain a considerable level of privacy to themselves as well especially online.
Comment by cheH — December 8, 2005 @ 5:20 pm
dutched pinay: lol oh, I’m so loving to these pasaring (parinig),too
These parinigs spice up the blogging world I guess. I must admit, I’m sometimes guilty myself,haha although my parinig were intented to the people I know offline, but most oftenly,online peeps tends to misread me & the parinig,this is one of the probs in blogging you know,you or your message can be misinterepreted despite of the fact,your blog got nothing to do with them.
Comment by cheH — December 8, 2005 @ 5:42 pm
jing, preho diay ta,mga recovering psycho,hehe
In real world,we are usually reluctant to divulge personal matter to other people especially , that other person is a stranger to him/her.In contrary to what we are online, we have all the tendencies to be very open (maski doon sa kasingitsingitan ng buhay natin) we’d be willing to disclose,wherein fact majority of the readers here are totally strangers.This alarming reality confuses me to be honest. Yung iba,kulang na lang resume ibandera online but as we’ve said,it’s none of our business!
I know,this would be annoying to the visiting beauties but I’m loving my spaminator somehow at least I don’t have to worry about spammer & nasty commenters anymore;)
Btw day, my spaminator(not sperminator ha?hehe) has been acting weird, comments are strictly moderated ‘kuno’ arte noh?
Comment by cheH — December 8, 2005 @ 9:17 pm
cherry: that was not very clever of your officemate! she could have used code names or nick names (or avatars,lol) to mask herself or to maintain that online anonymity while ranting.Oh well, too late!
I can agree with you’a blog is meant to be an extension of yourself and your thoughts’yes dearie,you’re right! but one must learn how to conceal their real identity especially on their online journals as I’m sure,there are bunch of nasty creatures out there,there are possible things they can do really such as: using your identity,stealing photos etc. My friend was victimized by these hideous act not very long time ago.We’ll need to be extra careful
Comment by cheH — December 8, 2005 @ 10:04 pm
inday cheh… i believe day we all have diff ideas what is blogging all about.
others love to blog all the good things ba…
others just want blah blah….
pero i do know ning uban hala wala na lang privacy basta sulat hahaha…
Comment by sha — December 11, 2005 @ 9:46 pm
sha,
truli dyud day, ah mga dagko na sila deli na kinahanglan sultihan,hehe
Comment by cheH — December 15, 2005 @ 8:00 am